This is a question from my brother – Been seeing a woman 7yrs, separate flats until this year. Shes married and pursued me. We worked together for 3yrs, her as my boss. I have rented my flat out until now(short term 1,2 wks at a time). She still married and sees, talks to him regularly, stays at their flat 1 or 2 nights a month, not in same bed.They have bought 2 properties to rent out since i met her. Gets angry when i mention him as her husband. I don’t like her behaviour as shes angry, jealous, anxious, controlling, nasty selfish,thoughtless, money orientated, lazy, dirty, stupid, sly, manipulative and a few others. I get no thanks for doing anything. She has kept me away from family and friends for 4/5 yrs now and eroded my confidence to the point of working as a cleaner 5 nights a week by myself. I’m a graduate of accountancy but didn’t like the career. i have no friends other than her heavy drinking bar friends. I would like to leave, but she says she loves me and wants me to commit to her, but shes still married herself! They are not separated financially to any extent.She gets me to say i love her too and that i wont leave her. This makes me feel guilty and i stay. Scared to leave as i will be very isolated by myself and dont feel i could cope. Shes been some strange sort of help and support over the years, but maybe has caused some of my issues herself just by being in my life. Not sure where to go now, or how to get there.Any advice or viewpoint might help me to see things and move on.Thankyou.
I have passed all the answers to my brother when gf not about (as she rants at him about being in touch with me). he says thanks to all the contributors and it will all help him take the necessary steps when he can summon courage.